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What if the key to thriving relationships was simply letting go of control?In this transformative talk, Manuela Lanza, Leadership and Public Speaking Coach, shares how her mother’s death led her to a powerful realization: how the Paradox of Control plays its part in successful relationships.Struggling with regret and trapped in toxic behaviors, Manuela reveals how escaping the “so-called” Drama Triangle can break toxic dynamics in relationships and bring peace. From her mother’s illness and final moments to finding freedom and empowerment in her own life and career, this speech offers a profound look at how releasing control is the key to overcoming toxic behaviours and creating thriving, healthy relationships.If you’re ready to let go of the past, break free from negative patterns, and build authentic connections in the present, this talk will inspire you to embrace the transformative power of releasing control in relationships.#paradoxofcontrol LetGoOfControl #ThrivingRelationships #dramatriangle #toxicbehaviours #Authenticity #Empowerment #freedom Manuela, born in Italy and raised in Spain, is a communications powerhouse, fluent in five languages, with over 20 years of experience. She’s worked with the world’s most prestigious media outlets, including CNN, Thomson Reuters, and Al Jazeera English.When her mother passed away from cancer in 2020, Manuela's life took a transformative turn. This profound experience led her to entrepreneurship, where she now aligns her expertise with her purpose: empowering leaders to amplify their impact through their voice.As a Trainer, Coach, and Keynote Speaker, Manuela helps leaders master public speaking, strengthen relational intelligence, and optimize the health, communication, and performance of their teams This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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