How asking for help counteracts perfectionism | Chris Sherman | TEDxBentleyU
What happens when you're taught to be strong—not by others, but by your own expectations? In this honest and deeply personal talk, Chris shares how growing up alongside family illness shaped a mindset of perfection, independence, and silence. From hiding pain behind straight A’s to navigating college applications and varsity tennis, Chris opens up about the power of shifting perspective, embracing imperfection, and finally learning that asking for help is not weakness—it's growth. What happens when you're taught to be strong—not by others, but by your own expectations? In this honest and deeply personal talk, Chris shares how growing up alongside family illness shaped a mindset of perfection, independence, and silence. From hiding pain behind straight A’s to navigating college applications and varsity tennis, Chris opens up about the power of shifting perspective, embracing imperfection, and finally learning that asking for help is not weakness—it's growth. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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